Live Editors, Draft Writers, and Processing Speed in Relationships I’ve met a lot of couples in my 25 years of practice and I often say there are not an infinite number of issues that I address in my office. Humans vary tremendously — but the relational patterns often repeat. One of the most common dynamics I see is not about values, or effort, or love. It’s about how each partner’s nervous system - and brain - process information when under emotional stress. How can you tell if this applies...

What??? Bear with me... Imagine this: you’re on the phone with your partner trying to figure out the dreaded dinner plan. Tonight, you're deciding between take-out or eat in. You're on your way home from work to your work-from-home partner so you call to find out if you're making a stop on the way. You go through "I don't know. What do you want to do?" a couple of times and finally say, “I'm driving right now and I really need to know where I'm going. Please give me an answer.” On the...

Relationships are hard. You’re with the person you chose - the one who chose you. The beginning was fun - exciting -maybe even magical!...