Long-term relationships don't always go as planned. Infidelity is one major event that causes major detours. Sometimes they lead to destinations that are better tha expected Can a Marriage Survive Infidelity? It is absolutely true that couples can go on to have successful and happy marriages after infidelity. I see that happen regularly. The betrayal is never forgotten by either partner—but it doesn’t have to define the entire relationship. It becomes part of the story, not the whole story....

What do you think would happen if you told someone your partner had been unfaithful? Unless you have a particularly thoughtful and empathetic confidante, you’ll probably hear some version of: “You need to leave that sorry excuse for a human being.” I’m here to validate the heart-wrenching reality that it’s not always that simple. Sometimes it is. Often, it isn’t. Cheating. Infidelity. Affair. Emotional affair. Physical affair. One-night stand. Years-long relationship. Secret lunches. Drinks...

Live Editors, Draft Writers, and Processing Speed in Relationships I’ve met a lot of couples in my 25 years of practice and I often say there are not an infinite number of issues that I address in my office. Humans vary tremendously — but the relational patterns often repeat. One of the most common dynamics I see is not about values, or effort, or love. It’s about how each partner’s nervous system - and brain - process information when under emotional stress. How can you tell if this applies...